Sexologist Elena Perelygina: The intimate sphere of life of a modern person is changing dramatically. The place of expectations and claims in various spheres. What is the intimate sphere?

Sexual sphere

INCREASED IMPORTANCE OF THE SEXUAL SPHERE

Some signs indicating increased importance of the sexual sphere, have already been considered in connection with the analysis of human drawings. This is typical for teenagers emphasizing gender characteristics, indicators of emotional stress when depicting them, extravagant clothing(see Fig. 12, 13, 34, 40, 44). ABOUT the high significance of the sexual sphere is also indicated by the image nude or semi-nude figure(Fig. 54).

Eleven-year-old Inga drew “a ballerina in a leotard who is now going to dance.” As indicated, the image of not just a person, but a certain character is a sign of demonstrativeness, especially if this character (like a ballerina) due to her individual or professional qualities is the object of general attention. A large number of decorations also speaks about the girl’s high demonstrativeness: a rose on the bodice, lace, elegant gloves, patterned stockings.

In Inga’s drawing, along with signs of demonstrativeness and increased interest in the sexual sphere, there is also a specific pose with hands covering the genital area. This position of the hands is interpreted as an indicator of the desire to control one’s sexual impulses. Perhaps, in this case, the need for increased self-control is associated with the girl’s feeling that she is not sufficiently oriented in life. In the drawing, this feeling is reflected in the unstable pose of the ballerina (cf. Fig. 43).

For an eleven and a half year old, Inga's drawing looks very mature. It can be assumed that interest in the sexual sphere is associated with an advance in general psychosexual and emotional development, and the early development of an adolescent crisis. Ingina’s mother’s complaints about her daughter’s uncontrollability, constantly leaving home to visit friends without permission, and returning home late are also typical of the period of teenage crisis. Based on the examination, recommendations were given for communicating with the girl and her upbringing, corresponding not to Inga’s passport age, but to her psychological age.

Sexual symbolism in the drawings of boys differs little from that in the drawings of girls (Fig. 55).

Just like Inga, Sasha has an interest in the sexual sphere that is ahead of the age norm. It manifests itself in the depiction of an almost completely naked character, in emphasizing the chest and genital area. The presence of male nipples in the drawing is interpreted as a reflection of sexual symbolism, regardless of the method of their depiction, but in this case it must be analyzed separately. Sasha depicted a man's chest the way a woman's is usually depicted. His drawing contains signs of the opposite sex (female breasts on a man), which indicates unformed gender identification. Consequently, Sasha’s interest in the sexual sphere appears in its pure form, and not as a manifestation of a general advance in psychosexual development. Such an advance would have to manifest itself in fairly mature sexual identification.

In Fig. 56 presents a carefully conveyed effect transparent clothes. This is the same sign of the high significance of the sexual sphere as the image of a naked (half-naked) character. In a relatively adult person, such special significance of the sexual sphere usually signals some kind of trouble in relations with the opposite sex.

Along with this, in the image of a man, the hand covers the genital area. As indicated in the analysis of Fig. 54, this position of the hand is interpreted as a sign of a tendency to control one’s sexual impulses. This suggests that Anatoly has specific norms governing gender relations, since the standard norms of modern society do not imply high sexual control in men. Perhaps this is precisely what explains Anatoly’s difficulties in building his sexual relationships, causing the increased importance of the corresponding sphere.

AVOIDING SEXUAL SUBJECTS

Avoidance of topics related to the sexual sphere is manifested in the absence of an image of the lower half of a person’s body or in the image of only the face. This usually refers to a drawing of a person of the opposite sex (Fig. 57, 58).

Sixteen-year-old Sophia drew the girl to her full height, and positioned the young man so that the lower part of his body was hidden by the table. The image of the young man shows signs of emotional stress (increased pressure on the pencil, corrections). This suggests that Sophia’s avoidance of sexual issues is associated with a tense attitude towards this area. It can have various reasons: unfavorable previous experience, general ideas about the undesirability or prohibition of sexual relations, distrust of members of the opposite sex.

A similar combination of avoidance of sexual issues with a tense attitude towards this area is also observed in Fig. 58.

Previously, Dima’s drawing of a young man was analyzed (Fig. 47). It contained signs that the ideal of masculinity was highly important to the author. The drawing fully corresponded to the instructions: the person on it was depicted in full, in full growth. In the drawing of the girl there is only a face. The lips are drawn with particular care, representing a socially acceptable sexual symbol (association with a kiss). In this way, first of all, lips with an emphasized shape are interpreted: in the form of a bow (as in this picture) or a heart. A less pronounced sexual symbol are emphasized full lips, the shape of which is not drawn.

SIGNIFICANT SEXUAL DISORDER

One of the most common signs of serious problems in the sexual sphere is the manifestation of particularly significant emotional stress when depicting the breasts, hips, and genital area. In Fig. 59 the chest is depicted with multiple lines with increased pressure. The genital area is also drawn in detail, which in the first (later erased) version of the drawing was hidden by a skirt.

The drawing as a whole contains pronounced signs of anxiety (corrections, multiple lines), high emotional tension (increased pressure), fears (dark glasses). A carefully drawn hairstyle, beads and earrings speak of high demonstrativeness. Such pronounced, mature and crude sexual symbolism as in Sonya’s drawing is completely untypical for her age.

We can talk about a significant acceleration of psychosexual development, accompanied by serious problems in the sexual sphere. This may be a consequence of either physiological disorders that led to very early sexual development (hormonal disorders, organic damage to the hypothalamic region of the brain), or depraved acts committed with the child. It was not possible to establish the cause of deviations in psychosexual development. Consultation with an endocrinologist is recommended.

Another manifestation of trouble in the sexual sphere can be observed in Fig. 60. The image of a man and a woman reflects a high level of anxiety (erasures, corrections, multiple lines), communication problems (sharply reduced hands, empty eyes - signs of possible autism), asthenia combined with increased emotional lability (highly varying, but mostly loose pressure on the pencil). All indicators of psychological stress in the image of a woman are expressed much more strongly than in the image of a man. To the already noted signs are added an extremely gross violation of proportions and a distortion of the shape of the face. Overall, the image resembles a witch with a twisted mouth and bared teeth.

In Ilya's perception, a woman is a source of threat; she is aggressive (at least verbally) and potentially dangerous. The depiction is more of an adult woman than a girl. This leads to the assumption that behind the boy’s ideas about a woman is the image of his mother. However, the pronounced sexual symbolism (emphasized breasts) indicates that the drawing should be interpreted more generally - as an image of “a woman in general.”

The connection between the generalized image of a woman and the maternal figure was emphasized by S. Freud. It is especially strong in cases of persistent Oedipus complex. It can be assumed that disturbances in the relationship with the mother (overprotection, excessive pressure) led to a pronounced fear of women in general. At the same time, in adolescence, the problem of relationships with the opposite sex is always highly significant. It is very likely that it was the significance of these relationships, combined with extremely negative expectations, that was one of the reasons that caused Ilya’s unfavorable psychological state (the anxiety and autism noted above).

The mother characterizes Ilya as a nervous child who experiences serious difficulties in contacts with people. According to her, adverse manifestations existed before, but have sharply intensified in the last six months. This information is fully consistent with the hypothesis put forward as a result of a psychological examination. To overcome existing difficulties, family psychotherapy is recommended.

UNFORMED GENDER IDENTIFICATION

For early adolescence, drawings are typical in which there are no signs that define character gender. They indicate unformed gender identification, normal at this age.

As a rule, this is combined with a lack of acute interest in the sexual sphere, characteristic of older adolescence and adolescence. More specific cases occur when both unformed gender identification and interest in the sexual sphere are observed.

An example of such a combination is shown in Fig. 61 (see also Fig. 55). The drawing was made by eleven-year-old Lyuba M. according to standard instructions. When asked what the gender of the character depicted was, the girl replied that it was a man. Meanwhile, it is extremely difficult to determine gender from an image. In particular, the genital area is depicted in a feminine rather than masculine manner. This indicates that Lyuba’s gender identification is unformed, which is quite consistent with her age.

A sign of the importance of the sexual sphere is the sharply emphasized framing of the genital area (pockets and belt buckle drawn with strong pressure) and the chest area (tie). Among the general psychological characteristics in Lyuba’s drawings, high emotional lability (pronounced fluctuations in the pressure on the pencil), a desire for orderliness (high accuracy and thoroughness in drawing, strict symmetry) and demonstrativeness (an abundance of various details) are manifested.

The high importance of the sexual sphere when gender identification is not formed is also shown in Fig. 62.

According to the standard instructions, Ulyana depicted a person whose nipples on his chest are drawn in a male type (there are no female breasts), while at the same time the hips and genitals are more likely to be female. In response to the question of what gender this person was, Ulyana answered: “Undetermined.” In response to a request to draw a person of the opposite sex, she depicted a man; therefore, the first drawing still depicted a woman. Such uncertainty about the character's gender is a typical sign of unformed gender identification. For the age of twenty, this is evidence of a severe delay in psychosexual development. The high significance of sexual issues is indicated by the image of a naked figure with drawn nipples.

The emphasized outline of figures (especially female ones) speaks of increased self-control, the desire to hide one’s problems and experiences from others (see analysis of Fig. 24). The man has one hand shaded and a shaded briefcase in the other. This can be interpreted as an indicator of tension in contacts with the opposite sex.

From the book Love Relationships [Norm and Pathology] author Kernberg Otto F.

MATURE SEXUAL LOVE AND THE SEXUAL COUPLE Henry Dix (1967) has provided materials derived from the study of conflicts in married couples, which I consider to be the clearest psychoanalytic tool for studying the characteristics of normal and psychopathological

From the book Psychological Drawing Tests author Wenger Alexander Leonidovich

Sphere of communication INTROVERT To assess stable personal characteristics, in particular those that determine the sphere of communication, what is more important is not the formal indicators in a person’s drawing, but the substantive ones, i.e. the way of depicting individual parts of the human

From the book Occupational Psychology: lecture notes author Prusova N V

Sphere of communication EXTRAVERT Extroversion, i.e. the personality's focus outward, on contacts with other people, is manifested in the presence of a non-existent animal of various and sometimes very numerous organs facing in different directions. It could be the legs

From the book Personality Anomalies author Bratus Boris Sergeevich

3. Scope of application The scope of work psychology is very wide, since work is the main activity of every person. Many professions provide a wide field for research in the field of labor psychology and are aimed at developing certain methods of working with

From the book Biology of the Transcendent author Pierce Joseph Chilton

4. MEANINGFUL SPHERE OF PERSONALITY We have seen that the biological, or more precisely, perhaps, the organic, constitutes a necessary condition for mental development. Another important condition is the social environment, the world of culture. But, as already emphasized above, from themselves

From the book Breakthrough! 11 best personal growth trainings author Parabellum Andrey Alekseevich

THE SPHERE OF THE POSSIBLE The use of the words “sphere” or “field” denotes the desire of human consciousness to unite disparate events to create from them a kind of union, a spiritual category, a generalization, which transforms the obvious chaos of nature into orderliness

From the book Individual psychological diagnostics of a child 5-7 years old. A manual for psychologists and teachers author Veraksa Alexander Nikolaevich

The first area is health. Without good health, a person is capable of little. Unfortunately, few people pay enough attention to health. Not everyone even does morning exercises, not to mention hardening and other health procedures. Healthy people

From the book Structure and Laws of the Mind author Zhikarentsev Vladimir Vasilievich

Cognitive sphere Methodology “Draw a Person” (F. Goodenough - D. Harris) General characteristics of the method This method is aimed at studying the intellectual development of children and adolescents (from 3 to 15 years old). It is based on the assumption that visual

From the book Reasonable World [How to live without unnecessary worries] author Sviyash Alexander Grigorievich

Motivational-need sphere Three desires (method of motivational preferences) (A. M. Prikhozhan, N. N. Tolstykh) Features of the methodology This method is intended to assess the development of the motivational-need sphere in preschool and primary school children

From the book Psychotherapy. Tutorial author Team of authors

Emotional and personal sphere Methodology “Drawing a Person” (K. Machover) General characteristics of the methodology Initially, the “Draw a Person” test was developed by F. Goodenough to diagnose the level of intelligence. However, in the process of work a large amount was obtained

From the author's book

Cognitive sphere Development of thinking Methodology “Draw a person” As a result of performing this technique (see Fig. 42), Sasha received 8 points, which corresponds to the normal level of intelligence development. This indicator indicates the average level of development

From the author's book

Emotional-personal sphere Methodology “Drawing of a Person” We present those points of the analysis of the drawing (see Fig. 47) that seem to us the most significant in this case. Rice. 47 Drawing analysis form Style aspect: pressure: strong; type of lines: curved,

From the author's book

Center and sphere One ejection of a man's seed contains countless spermatozoa, which can be enough for countless female cells. The seed is in the center, and the cells are around it. Therefore, there is only one man, but there are many women around him. When

From the author's book

Scope of application In the position of a player, you can set any goals for yourself and strive with all your energy to achieve them. Almost any means are suitable for this, as long as you do not judge yourself for using them (and are not faced with restrictive rules more

From the author's book

Scope of application The proposed position can be taken if you are not very confident in your abilities and expect that Life will already give you what you need. This attitude to life is applicable in any area: love, family life, work, hobbies, etc. But this is the position of an employee

From the author's book

Definitions and scope of application As a consequence of polyphony in theoretical views on the phenomenology and nature of hypnosis, there is no single definition of either this concept itself or related ones. However, in the process of psychotherapy they often use

Often newlyweds downplay the importance of this area. Sexual disharmony and loss of intimate feelings are a truly unpleasant thing and are fraught with various consequences: from disappointment to the nominal breakdown of a marriage. First of all, because intimate relationships themselves are an integral part of the life of any person. Sexual contact itself has lost its direct physiological meaning for a person and has become a bouquet of various personal meanings. Even if the spouses try not to pay attention to such a sad fact that in their relationship, it will imperceptibly, according to the law of circular causation, undermine all their other areas.

Easy accessibility, excessive intimacy and monotony of sexual relationships can lead to satiety, a decrease in mutual attractiveness and a decrease in the activity of sexual needs. This is often interpreted in terms of the partner’s inherent shortcomings in terms of possible betrayals.

On the other hand, harmony of sexual relations is far from the main condition for a happy marriage. A fairly large number of women who never received sexual satisfaction in marriage, nevertheless, recognized it as happy.

Family happiness equally rests on the mental, spiritual and sexual adaptation of people. The strength of physical joys often depends on the strength of spiritual joys. The greater the sympathy, affection or psychological attraction, the brighter the bodily joys. When there is no magnifying lens of psychological gravity over physical attraction, bodily joys seem to pass through the filters of emotional indifference - they dim and lose their brightness.

Personal identification sphere

Primary attraction is often based on three stages: the first is interest (as well as sympathy, or attraction), so we say: “I like him (she).” This is quite enough for a first approximation. The second is passion, love (as well as admiration and enthusiasm) create a certain intensity, knocking it out of rhythm. It is difficult for a person to live in a state of passionate excitement; as a result, the passion must either go out or be satisfied. The third stage is respect, devotion and love. Love that has gone through all three phases of development is a feeling for life.

But this is a fairly generalized picture; if we look at this topic in more detail, we will notice that the established relationships are strengthened thanks to the reactions of others, obtaining the status of a couple, and a feeling of comfort and tranquility in each other’s presence. As a result, the couple enters a stage of mutual obligations and intimacy, which further attracts partners to each other. Having bound themselves to mutual obligations, they study each other's views and values. At this stage, the couple is often ready to decide to marry.

The premarital period reflects the process of interaction between marriage partners before marriage, including the acquisition by young people of experience of communicating with the opposite sex, as well as emotional, business interaction and the choice of a marriage partner. Desires, aspirations, leading needs and personal preferences act as the basis for the formation of a new married couple.

The independence of modern young people contributes to early psychological and moral maturity, on which personal interaction in marriage depends. Courtship and premarital socialization is a period when relationships become a special sphere and value in people's lives.

In the development of relationships, premarital acquaintance and courtship are of particular importance. 2/3 of acquaintances occur during leisure time, in transport, shops, etc. The dating situation itself influences the information content and duration of premarital courtship. Information content depends on the process of partners recognizing each other, which is important for the emergence of close relationships and well-being in a married couple. The duration of premarital courtship may be associated with the psychological meaning of this period - the accumulation of joint experiences and impressions.

Love relationships between a man and a woman, no matter how they develop - slowly and gradually or lightning fast and dizzyingly - over time they lose their former passion and become familiar, if not boring, and can cause a breakup. What's happening to us?

“Darling, I have a terrible headache today...”

“Honey, I’m sorry, not now, I urgently need to finish the report...”

“Darling, I’m not feeling well... let’s do it better tomorrow?”

“Go to bed, dear, don’t wait for me until late.”

Insipid sex does not cause a storm of sensations, as before, the partner becomes predictable, and passionate hugs and kisses turn into fulfillment of marital duty.

What's happening to us?

Why do we now invent reasons to refuse our partner, although previously we looked for any reason and did not miss a single opportunity to have sex?

Has love really passed away, and with it desire?

So what should we do now? Go in search of new adventures, changing partners like gloves, or withdraw into yourself, accumulating bad experiences, grievances and continuing this endless run in the circle of life?

Or perhaps sex is far from the most important thing in life and you can do without it? It’s more important to save the family for the sake of the children... the status of a married man for the sake of a career... to stay close, because he will be lost without me...

Intimate secrets of the psychology of love and sex

The psychology of sexual relationships is an intimate sphere of every person’s life, in which, like in any other sphere, individual innate psychological qualities are manifested - a set of vectors.

The type of sexuality, the range of sexual acceptability, exciting factors, attitude towards changing a partner and sexual preferences - all this can be accurately determined in just a few minutes of communication with a person, based on thinking in the categories of system-vector psychology.

We are very simple!

Our words, behavior, actions and even appearance are a manifestation of the inner world, those qualities that are inherent in us from birth and which are impossible - and not necessary! - change, but which can be realized, and use the best that is in each of us, without trying to rebuild or rebuild someone for ourselves.

I don’t want a husband... what should I do?!

Why does the desire pass? For what reason is a once passionate lover no longer exciting? What has changed?

The period of mutual attraction has ended - the approximately three-year period during which sexual desire keeps us together. The period of falling in love, passion, honeymoons, the time when we like each other All, and what you don’t like is easily compensated for by good sex.

We are sure that this is happiness, and it will always be so, but this Always ends in three years, and we see before us not the object of our passion, but simply a person with all his pros and cons. This is where the problems begin. Claims, disappointments, grievances, reproaches...

We don’t have relationships, not because this is our fate, fate, fate or anything else supernatural, but because we are trying to revive a sandcastle instead of building a house with a strong foundation. We had a whole three-year period at our disposal...

Elementary, as ancient as the world, sexual attraction for creating long-term relationships has long been insufficient for such a complex and multifaceted creature as Man. Sex has long ceased to be a mating for procreation, but has turned into an emotional connection, intellectual unity, and spiritual interpenetration.

Yes, at first, like 50 thousand years ago, we are attracted by sex, and only then the question arises: “What about talking?!” But three years later it’s exactly this “what about talking?!” may result in good sex as a continuation of psychological intimacy with physical intimacy, but not vice versa.

At the root of our relationship there becomes something much more than “I want you here and now!” It is embodied in teamwork, creativity, children, everyday life, common goals, development and, of course, excellent sexual relationships of a much higher level.

Our sexuality is determined by lower vectors - skin, urethral, muscle and anal. They form libido and are responsible for attraction to the opposite sex for the purpose of procreation. The upper vectors - visual, oral, sound and olfactory - give one or another type of sexuality a characteristic coloring, introducing their own nuances and finally forming preferences regarding partners.

Female and male sexuality differ in that metaphysically the man gives (ejaculate, food, provision, etc.), and the woman receives. The specific role of any woman is the birth and feeding of offspring. The exception is a skin-visual woman who does not give birth and does not belong to anyone.

Royal Passion

The most voluminous, four-dimensional libido is the urethral vector. The leader, responsible for the future of the pack, is able to ensure this future in every sense, right up to the birth of the next generations and the transmission of the entire gene pool of the pack over time. His attraction to women who are “unaccepted” for any reason (illness, age, loss of a husband, social maladaptation, etc.) is precisely intended to ensure the complete transmission of the pack’s gene pool into the future and is a manifestation of his animal altruism and polygamy.

He is capable of almost any sexual experimentation, since he is not limited by any prohibitions or boundaries.

The violent sexuality of the urethral leader makes him desirable to any woman, since she subconsciously knows that the birth of offspring in this case is guaranteed to her by nature. However, very few such outstanding personalities are born - no more than 5 percent, and only half of them survive to childbearing age.

The problem of fading sexual desire in a couple with a urethral man does not arise as such, because he is not created for long-term, much less family relationships with one woman, among his values there is no concept of fidelity to a sexual partner, there is not even the concept of “my woman,” since for him the priority of the general over the particular is relevant. For him, the interests of the pack are more important, his tasks are more global.

His woman, corresponding to the highest rank of leader, is a high-ranking female - a skin-visual Muse, who does not give birth, but inspires him to the greatest feats.

The logic of sex

The rationality and logical thinking of the skin vector also manifests itself in sexual relationships. The choice of a partner is determined both by attraction and by receiving some kind of benefit from the existing relationship.

Prudent and economical, they do not spend too much time and resources on charming their chosen one or chosen one, comparing the efforts expended and possible “dividends”. In sex, he (she) also saves effort, time, emotions and is primarily concerned with his own sensations.

A special exciting moment for any representative of the skin vector is the factor of novelty, in connection with this they are prone to frequent changes of partners or adultery, considering such behavior simply a desire to have fun without any long-term plans or serious intentions. This happens when the skin vector is underdeveloped or insufficiently realized in society.

Only leather workers, trying to explain their love for novelty, call it an innate tendency towards polygamy, although in fact they are not.

Having especially sensitive skin (the secondary erogenous zone of representatives of the skin vector), skin people enjoy touching, stroking, kissing - the initiation of their erogenous zone. This property of theirs can turn into a love for sadomasochistic role-playing games if they were subjected to physical punishment in childhood, when the beaten skin child adapts to the pain sensations so much that he begins to experience pleasure from blows to the skin.

Decency and taboos

Representatives of the anal vector are endowed with the most complex libido - undifferentiated, i.e. aimed at both sexes. In this way, nature ensures that anals fulfill their specific role - transmitting information about war and hunting to teenage boys. In the case of full development and implementation of the innate properties of the anal vector, the undifferentiated libido of the anal man is successfully sublimated, and he becomes the best teacher, sincerely in love with his calling and his students. Sexual attraction is completely limited, turning into a talent for teaching and love for children in the best sense of the word.

Underdevelopment, lack of realization, social and sexual frustrations can lead to the emergence of homosexual and pedophilic thoughts in representatives of the anal vector.

The doubly tabooed (by nature and culture) secondary erogenous zone - the anus - makes anal sufferers especially concerned about observing all norms of decency, the fear of disgrace makes them listen and value public opinion, a focus on the past increases the value of traditional views in everything and creates a wary attitude towards everything new.

A rigid, sedentary psyche, poor ability to adapt and hostile perception of innovations significantly narrow the range of sexual acceptability of representatives of the anal vector.

Adherents of traditions and opponents of change, analists are precisely those people who will try their best to maintain familiar relationships, even if they have lost their former attractiveness and mutual attraction. They are ready to endure painful relationships for years, rationalizing for themselves such an act as a noble decision “for the sake of the children” or for the reason “what people will say,” while at the same time accumulating sexual frustrations, which can result in domestic tyranny and cruelty towards their own children.

Sometimes, in need of additional initiation of their secondary erogenous zone, a woman or man with an anal vector is embarrassed to even admit this to himself, let alone tell his partner about it. A man regards such a desire as a manifestation of homosexual thoughts, and therefore unacceptable for himself, and a woman, due to conservatism or existing frustrations, considers it indecent. Women's attitude towards anal sex changes if the partner manages to open up his companion sexually - in this case, the anal woman will prefer anal sex to vaginal sex.

In the case of sexual deficiencies specifically in terms of the initiation of the secondary erogenous zone in a woman, such dissatisfaction may manifest itself in too much concern about cleaning the house, even to the point of daily general cleaning, or, conversely, in spreading food dirt around oneself.

It's time to give birth

Representatives of the most numerous vector - the muscular one - have a special sexuality. These are simple people who live by providing for their basic desires - to eat, drink, breathe, sleep, maintain body temperature on the landscape and continue themselves through time.

Enjoying physical labor, they choose their life partners based on their hard work, that is, similarly muscular people.

Having reached childbearing age, a muscular woman feels the need to give birth to a child, and therefore strives to get married. She gives birth easily and a lot, often having a large family. The attitude towards sex solely as a means of procreation. Both men and women treat sexual relationships outside the family with suspicion, because it is “not human.” They live together all their lives without changing their partner, because they see no reason to do so.

Influence from above

The basis of sexual attraction is, of course, the lower vectors, but the influence of the upper, especially dominant (sound or olfactory) vectors is very significant.

The most amorous, emotional and sensitive visual vector in sexual relationships attaches special importance to the romantic setting - flowers, gifts, dim lighting, bed and underwear, the appearance or sincerity of the partner’s feelings.

For a woman with a visual vector, an emotional connection with a partner is more important than for any other. A skin-visual woman, who by nature does not give birth, is generally the founder of a culture that transferred sex from the category of intercourse to the category of emotional intercourse, mutual pleasure, intimate love play.

Only a skin-visual woman is able to give a night of love to a young warrior who has not known a woman, but who is going into his first battle at dawn. She does this out of compassion, and not out of promiscuity. In an undeveloped state of vectors, the same skin-visual woman, as a carrier of a victim complex, becomes a victim of sexual violence.

One of the dominant ones - the sound vector - is asexual, its values lie outside the material world, which he perceives as an illusion, as well as the needs of his own body, including sexual ones. The presence of a sound vector in a person reduces the libido of any of the lower vectors, except for the urethral one, with which it does not manifest itself at the same time, making such a person at different times either pure urethral or purely sound.

Being dominant, the sound vector requires satisfaction of its needs first, relegating the desires of other vectors to the background.

Sound deficiencies can lead to a complete lack of sexual desire for a partner until the sound vector is filled, at least partially. Only after this will other vectors, including those responsible for libido, have the opportunity to express themselves and express their desires.

It is the spouses of sound workers who most often ask the question: “What to do if the husband has lost his temper?”, trying to find the reason in themselves, life circumstances or everyday issues. At the same time, most often the sound engineer himself is not able to realize, much less explain to someone, his shortcomings.

In sexual relationships, sounds play a big role for a sound artist - music or complete silence, the sound of the surf or the sounds of the forest, hot whispers or passionate confessions.

The second dominant vector, olfactory, when choosing a partner is guided by its desire for complete melancholy. The less emotional a person is, the less harsh and unpleasant his smell is to the olfactory sense. This is a peculiar nuance that the presence of an olfactory vector introduces into the choice of a partner for attraction, carried out by lower vectors.

A piquant feature of the oral vector in the sexual sphere is its love for kissing, oral sex (not to be confused with skinworms, they also love to receive oral sex, as it stimulates the most sensitive areas of the skin), talking during sex and screaming. His secondary erogenous zone - lips, mouth, tongue - must be constantly occupied, which provides additional pleasure from the initiation of this erogenous zone.

A Guide to Love Relationships Between a Man and a Woman

System-vector psychology, explaining the most intimate psychological mechanisms, provides a unique tool for building sexual relationships between partners.

Awareness of your partner’s own needs and desires provides an opportunity to look at your sex life differently, to make it more complete and varied, while simultaneously receiving and giving exactly what can bring special pleasure to both of you.

Sex is both the beginning and the end in the sense that every relationship begins with sexual attraction, providing a chance to build on it to build a higher level of mutual connection that can extend the love relationship for many years. To create a relationship in which intimate life is a mutual disclosure, deep psychological penetration, embodied in physical intimacy, and bringing not only bodily pleasure, but also psychological comfort and joy on the mental level.

You will learn how to bring this to life at Yuri Burlan’s training. . Join free online lectures to take the first steps in a deeper understanding of yourself and your loved one. You can register

The article was written based on training materials “ System-vector psychology»

Some signs indicating the increased significance of the sexual sphere have already been considered in connection with the analysis of human drawings. These are typical for teenagers: emphasizing characteristics of gender, indicators of emotional stress when depicting them (sharply increased pressure on the pencil), extravagant clothing (expressively emphasized low-lying belt), in the image of the navel (see Fig. 12, 13, 44).

The high importance of the sexual sphere is also indicated by the image of a naked or half-naked figure (Fig. 54).

Eleven-year-old Inga drew “a ballerina in a leotard who is now going to dance.” As indicated, the image of not just a person, but a certain character is a sign of demonstrativeness, especially if this character (like a ballerina) due to her individual or professional qualities is the object of general attention. The large number of decorations also speaks about the girl’s high demonstrativeness: a rose on the bodice, lace, elegant gloves, patterned stockings.

Sexual symbolism in the drawings of boys differs little from that in the drawings of girls (Fig. 55).

In Fig. 56 shows the carefully conveyed effect of transparent clothing. This is the same sign of the high significance of the sexual sphere as the image of a naked (half-naked) character. In a relatively adult person, such special significance of the sexual sphere usually signals some kind of trouble in relations with the opposite sex.

Avoiding sexual topics

A similar combination of avoidance of sexual issues with a tense attitude towards this area is also observed in Fig. 58.

In Ilya’s perception, a woman is a source of threat; she is aggressive (at least verbally) and potentially dangerous. The depiction is more of an adult woman than a girl. This leads to the assumption that behind the boy’s ideas about a woman is the image of his mother. However, the pronounced sexual symbolism (emphasized breasts) indicates that the drawing should be interpreted more generally - as an image of “a woman in general.”

The mother characterizes Ilya as a nervous child who experiences serious difficulties in contacts with people.

According to her, adverse manifestations existed before, but have sharply intensified in the last six months. This information is fully consistent with the hypothesis put forward as a result of a psychological examination. To overcome existing difficulties, family psychotherapy is recommended.

After childbirth, global changes occur in a woman’s body: hormonal levels are normalized, the structure and functions of the uterus are restored. Against the background of these processes, the woman resumes her menstrual cycle, which, unfortunately, can be pathological. Often in the postpartum period, representatives of the fair sex are bothered by heavy menstrual flow.

Unpleasant smell of discharge after childbirth: causes and solution to a delicate problem

After the birth of a child, the placenta is disconnected from the uterus, and this process causes multiple violations of the integrity of the vessels and capillaries that previously connected them together. Together with the blood, fragments of the placenta come out, as well as dead particles of the endometrium (the inner mucous membrane of the uterine body) and other traces of the vital activity of the fetus inside the womb. Discharge after childbirth is perceived as...

Yellow discharge after childbirth: normal or a cause for concern

The birth of a child is a great stress for the female body. This process entails a number of not very pleasant consequences. For young mothers, especially if this is their first birth, many aspects are alarming. For example, this is yellow discharge from the genital tract. How normal are they? In what period should they appear and when should they end? How to distinguish between normal limits and signs of disease?

Pregnancy after cesarean section - timing, features, risks

When one child appears in a family, after some time many mothers begin to think about a second or even a third baby. At the same time, due to the widespread prevalence of births by cesarean section, the question inevitably arises about the timing, features and possible complications of a new pregnancy.