Each stage of the relationship between a woman and a man has its own problems, while they can be completely different, that is, spouses can be worried about an unplanned pregnancy, problems at work, and even a midlife crisis. Anything can happen! If you want to live peacefully and happily with your beloved until the end of your life, then you should constantly take care of the health of the relationship. And not only on a physical level, but also on an emotional one. Let's take a deeper look at what is more important for us, and what should be paid special attention to.
Where to start?
Unfortunately, both men and women, having acquired families, immediately relax, they eventually cease to attach importance to their appearance. According to some experts, the waist circumference of those who are married is gradually increasing every year. Recently, in one of the British magazines, an article was published on the topic of relationships, which said that if after a couple of years life together one of the spouses is gaining weight, then the second may also subconscious level get the same weight. The risk of recovering "for the company" is great, it is equal to 37%. And this, in turn, leads to family problems, because due to excess weight, the sexual attractiveness of spouses is significantly reduced, while the number of serious diseases is rapidly increasing, this applies primarily to the heart and kidneys. From this we can conclude that the family needs to develop the habit of healthy, rational nutrition as early as possible, only then the spouses will be healthy not only physically, but also emotionally. And one more fact that leads to obesity: a person eats a lot more food in the company, whether it is family or friends. Therefore, at least dinner should be eaten alone.
Gotta live according to plan
One of the important causes of family scandals is money. According to statistics, more than 40% of married couples try to hide from each other how much he/she actually spent on a particular purchase. And even more so it is not clear how to survive if a crisis has come in the country. Therefore, each family should have its own plan. Naturally, it is necessary to agree on financial issues at the beginning of the development of relations, before you start living together. Sometimes there are couples in which the wife is a spender, and the husband is a very economical person who is used to counting pennies. Do you think such couples will not last long together? No, on the contrary, if a husband and wife have different financial policies, it is even more interesting to live. You just need to immediately agree on strategic issues, decide in advance who will pay utility bills, wife's new clothes, and who will run the household.
Rules from childhood
Starting to live with our husband, we try to build a strategic plan for our family. Our husbands often participate in this as well. Only sometimes we forget that we almost completely copy our parents, we try to live the way our moms and dads lived, everything goes on a subconscious level. At the same time, we rarely think about how we lived in that family. It doesn’t seem to matter where to store dishes for guests? But no, in some families, because of such a trifle, the relationship between husband and wife deteriorates. And with the advent of children, things go much worse, because the child sees how the parents argue over trifles and absorbs everything like a sponge. As a result, these relationships will already flicker in the family of this child.
Expert research has shown the following interesting phenomenon: how parents were able to share the responsibilities of caring for a child, in a couple of years, will affect their marriage. Therefore, be sure to agree: who walks with the child, and who gets up at night for night feeding. Remember one thing, each person in the family is a separate person who has his own ideas and goals.
The importance of sex in a relationship
In family life, having sex is one of the important things, but it can never be planned, because it will become some kind of obligation. A couple of years ago, Americans conducted a study, during which it was revealed that the average couple has sex about 60 times a year, that is, they go out every 2 weeks. And one more important point, almost 90% of couples after the birth of their first child experience a decline in satisfaction with life in marriage.
Of course, there is no need to dramatize or fight in a panic, just turn on your imagination and remove laziness somewhere far away. It also plays an important role in the number of sex sessions, and its quality. If spouses are satisfied with quality sex once a month, then why change something? Well, if you want sexual acrobatics every night, and your partner is not against it - act!
Learn to flex
Perhaps, at the beginning of the relationship, you agreed on certain financial and living conditions, but you need to understand that life circumstances change over time, and not everything is in our hands. Imagine a situation when your earner husband was left without work, he lost everything he had because of the crisis. In such situations, there is a change of roles: the husband stays at home, makes plans and takes care of everyday life, and the housewife wife goes to work to feed the family. Whether it is necessary to dramatize in such a situation or not is up to you. But the family must stay together in any situation, in sorrow and in joy ... if you want your family not to suffer, learn to bend over and respond correctly to life changes.
Don't Forget About Movement
By the age of forty, only a few are ready to visit fitness clubs 3-4 times a week. But you should not give a damn about your forms, so physical activity is needed, only you can show it in a different way. You can visit the tennis court, the golf course or take a walk in the park together. Remember movement is life, and joint movement is convergence. Thus, you can spend time together, the main thing is that you enjoy it.
How to avoid it?
Unfortunately, today there are a lot of divorces, and not only young people get divorced, but also spouses who are already 50 years old or more. It seems that there are only a couple of dozen left to live, and it would be better for them not to wash dirty linen in public. Still, in addition to children, by this time there are already grandchildren. Many psychologists advise such older couples to just speak out. To do this, you can invite home an old friend who you can trust. It would be better if there is a person who could survive something like this. But we advise you to control your revelations, even if you are bosom friends. You don't have to tell everything that's on your mind. Suddenly these words will turn against you?
How to prepare for a new life
We often talk about empty nest syndrome. Although, if you look from the other side, it becomes possible to change your relationship. By “letting your children out on their own,” you can take care of your relationship with your husband, and you can significantly improve the quality of your intimate life. After all, now you do not need to get up at 6-00 in the morning, rush around the mugs. Now you can relax, spend time with your loved one or enjoy yourself, for example, soak in the bath.
But there is one thing, with children we often restrain ourselves, carefully select words so as not to injure the child's psyche, but after the children leave the house, your stress may increase. There will be no more familiar moments, you will not be annoyed by a daughter who is constantly worn with the phone, a son who likes to listen to loud music. Perhaps at first you will even discuss it. But you can often take up your free time with your hobbies.
We keep healthy
When one of the spouses falls ill, the second, as a rule, takes care of the patient. But sometimes the illness of a spouse, some responsibility for him, leads to the fact that a healthy one begins to break down, that is, he himself begins to fall ill. At such moments, you should not refuse the additional help of children, relatives or friends. And if you need this help, you must ask without any hesitation. The husband-nurse, at least sometimes, but must go out, he needs communication. Basically, the sick spouse feels guilty and often suffers because of this, he is even prone to depression, and the caregiver feels control and some kind of manipulation on the part of the patient. To avoid such a situation, learn to speak frankly, without embarrassment, about your illnesses, at least to your spouse.
In this article, we have tried to present an alloy of recommendations from Tibetan lamas, yogis and the latest developments of modern gerontologists. An attempt has been made to create a concise and dynamic encyclopedia on this topic. So, let's begin…
The main condition active longevity is existence in a comfortable and complementary environment. Optimism, love of life, a sense of being needed by people - this is the golden key to solving this problem.
This is the powerful force that keeps us in this world, gives us the strength to live, can cure the most serious illnesses. Love in the family, for relatives and friends, for the Motherland, for one's work, for people and, in general, for all of Nature is a powerful incentive for longevity.
2. Calm
Human evolution took place in the struggle for the survival of the species and everyday stress is vital for us. But the most important task is to prevent destructive (distress) that have a detrimental effect on nervous system and the entire human body. You need to be able to switch to the positive in time, to see the positive aspects in any difficult situation. No need to elevate any situation to the rank of drama or an insurmountable problem. If you can change these adverse circumstances, then act. And if the situation cannot be brought under control, then you need to trust the Universe. Unpleasant situations tend to resolve themselves over time. This is better than unnecessary experiences and empty fuss.
Before going to bed, you should not take a shower, as in some cases it can only contribute to arousal. Much the best option is a warm bath with herbs. Be sure to introduce self-massage into your daily practice.
3. Communication with people
Longevity is affected by active communication. It is necessary to consistently expand contacts and useful connections with a wide variety of people, which is largely facilitated by the Internet and other modern means of communication. There is even an opinion that the Internet increases immunity. In addition, you can get here a lot of useful, up-to-date information on the forms and methods of maintaining your health.
It is necessary to try to communicate with pleasant people, with people of common interests and hobbies. Do not forget to call and write to family and friends more often.
4. Nutrition
It is necessary to resolutely discard the passion for diets. People who are constantly on diets are more likely to have nervous breakdowns and their immunity may be weakened. Nutrition should be healthy and balanced, it must bring pleasure and joy.
A prerequisite is the regular intake of vitamins. In rational nutrition there should be no stress and storming. If we have one day a week vegetarian, then it's not a diet - it's just a health benefit. If you don't eat after six, that's fine too. The main thing - without fanaticism. Measure is the goddess of rational nutrition.
5. Workouts
You can meet the opinion that for longevity you need to move more. But there is a slightly different point of view. Chaotic, thoughtless movement, excessive tension, overwork can only lead to harm. And of course, sport is a serious health hazard. Only physical culture, meaningful, individual training brings benefits.
In order to benefit and improve health, training must be carried out on the verge of comfort and discomfort. In addition, in order to achieve longevity, it is necessary to train not only muscles, but also other parameters of the functioning of the human body, for example, flexibility, agility, quick reaction, vigilance of the eyes, etc.
6. Regular medical examination
It is clear to everyone that any disease is most easily treated in the early stages. To maintain health, it is necessary to undergo an annual medical examination. It is advisable to regularly independently measure your pressure, blood sugar. According to the recommendations of modern medicine, cholesterol levels should be monitored at least once every 3 years. It is very important to visit the dentist regularly, at least once every 6 months.
Modern research has shown that there is a direct relationship between the condition of the teeth and the cardiovascular system. Periodontal disease is directly related to the occurrence of atherosclerosis.
7. Active thinking
The wise thought of Rene Descartes is very relevant for prolonging longevity: "I think, therefore I exist." Learn, learn new languages, master the game on musical instruments, solve crossword puzzles and play chess - all this helps to prolong life.
8. Laughter
The relationship between health and good, sincere laughter has long been scientifically proven. It is very important to be able to laugh at yourself, smile more often from the heart. The ability to look at life with humor cheers up and strengthens the immune system. A minute of laughter normalizes blood pressure and strengthens the heart. People with a developed sense of humor live longer.
9. Update
Constantly and actively update! The update contributes to a heightened sense of progress and movement forward. And movement, development and progress, as you know, is the essence of life. Living in step with the times, keeping up, thinking creatively is the key to a high quality of life and longevity.
10. Fulfillment of purpose
It is very important to do what you love in life, to fulfill your Mission in the Universe. A person who fulfills his Destiny feels happy, he wants to live, create and create. It is very important to have a passion, an interesting hobby.
11. Communication with nature
A dacha, a garden, a kitchen garden, flowers, a person's communication with the earth, as well as trips to the forest for berries and mushrooms - these are unconditional factors for a comprehensive recovery. It prolongs the life and constant communication of a person with the water element. Bathing in the sea, in a lake, in a clean river has a powerful healing effect on the entire body. It is difficult to overestimate the importance of clean air.
Hiking in the mountains and inhaling the mountain air are especially useful. An important part of our communication with nature is also communication with our pets. Love for native animals fills life with new meaning. Since ancient times, the healing effect of cats on the host's body has also been known.
12. Contemplation, meditation, breathing
We regularly contemplate sunsets and sunrises, the blue sky, the sun, clouds and stormy skies, rain and fog, the moon and stars at night, flowers, sculpture and architecture, painting.
We meditate on fire (a fire or a flame in a fireplace) or streams of water (for example, on a waterfall, a mountain stream or a fountain in a park). Listening to your favorite songs and melodies, singing karaoke is also a peculiar and very useful meditation.
For active longevity, each person must choose his own breathing training system and strictly follow it. Very useful, for example, yogic full and cleansing breathing.
Summarizing…
Who is not afraid of old age? The one who lives in a high. It doesn't matter what their high is. Whether this buzz is in sunny weather or in collecting stamps, in growing flowers or in raising children. These people enjoy every moment of life and meet the new day with a smile.
Science presents us with more and more new sensations, promises to make us immortal and prolong youth to infinity. So we expect more and more unusual surprises from her. We want to live long and well, without illness and stress.
Here are three simple but wise advice, how to live to 100:
1. Learn to watch what you eat
“Trust in God, but don’t make a mistake yourself,” says a folk saying. True. The secrets of longevity lie in the way we live. In where we live, how we live, what we breathe, what we eat, what is the state of our soul.
Scientists say that by eating rice, fish, seafood, constantly including vegetables, fruits, foods that correspond to our age in the diet, we prolong our lives. At the same time, in no case do not overeat. But it's not all about the food.
2. Learn to be happy
You need to learn to live in peace and harmony with yourself, to be happy, despite the vicissitudes of fate. A person's attitude towards love plays an important role against aging. Love yourself, love the people around you, give more than you receive. "Love saves the world". When a person lives happily, whether he is rich or poor, and has a strong, loving family, he leaves behind more lived years. You need to live in the present, taking everything that happens to you for granted. Such is the law of nature.
3. Watch your emotions
She taught her grandchildren: “One fine time, stand in front of a mirror and aloud convince yourself “I am healthy and young”, “I will live a long, long time”, program yourself. And guess what, it helped.
A person must fight for his health himself, because without this, even the most outstanding doctor will not be able to heal him. In general, "it's hard to live only the first hundred years."
